Why You Should Learn To Love Constructive Criticism

A strong person accepts both compliments and criticism. Graciously knowing that it takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.

When I was a teenager I found it very difficult to accept any level of constructive criticism. At the time all I could hear was words of critique. Now that I’m a little older and a little wiser I can notice that I’m truly growing as a person. I now understand and accept constructive criticism and use it to develop and improve myself.


The things which you least want to hear will help you grow the most. Now and again I fall back into old habits and take a persons feedback to heart. When this happens it takes me a while to see that their intentions meant no harm but to simply help me grow. Yet once I have twisted their words it takes me a little while to realise their true intentions. The problem is, once I have taken something personally I find myself in a negative mindset. One of the things which I end up doing which makes me feel ten times worse, is analysing the feedback received. I will start to judge myself with further criticism. Interpreting a persons comment to mean something else, something negative.

Why You Should Learn To Love Constructive Criticism

Love yourself

To love yourself you also have to accept constructive criticism. Part of loving yourself means allowing yourself to grow and mature, to learn and understand, to help others and allow others to help you.

As painful as it can sometimes be to hear constructive criticism, it’s the type of feedback which we need the most in order to grow and develop. It may not be an agreeable conversation but it’s a necessary one. In the moment we don’t always remember the benefits of constructive criticism, as we can be too busy obsessing over it. Yet if we graciously listen and acknowledge what’s being said, we are giving ourselves the opportunity to improve our skills and relationships.


At the end of the day, it is up to you how you respond to constructive criticism. You can choose to grow from it or you can choose to dwell on it. Now and again (if you’re like me) you might just need a little time to dwell over think about your feedback before you can learn from it. This is okay and it’s perfectly normal but note that it’s something which needs to be worked on. Ironically, I guess that’s a little piece of constructive criticism from me… to me.

Why You Should Learn To Love Constructive Criticism


  1. 08/03/2017 / 10:18

    You’re so right about this! I’m a very sensitive person so I often take constructive criticism way too personal or let it put me down when in reality, like you said, its purpose is to make us grow x

    • 09/03/2017 / 15:09

      It can be difficult not to take constructive criticism personally and sometimes we just have days when we are more sensitive! But if we consider their feedback we can grow and develop. Thanks for commenting 🙂

  2. laura dale
    08/03/2017 / 10:34

    I love this post, I agree totally!
    From reading the book ‘Miracle morning’ it gave me the suggestion to send an email to my close friends and family to ask for constructive feedback about my personality. Scary but so worth it! I learnt things about myself I didn’t realise and it is great to know how you are coming across to others!

    • 09/03/2017 / 18:24

      Thanks, I’m so glad you liked it! That does sound scary but I think you’re incredibly brave and inspiring for pressing send! Sometimes we can be a bit oblivious to how we are coming across to others but it sounds like you got some helpful feedback 🙂 Thanks for commenting!

  3. 13/03/2017 / 18:28

    Great post! When criticism comes from someone I respect, I really value it as advice rather than a negative. I like to think of it as free tips to improve : )

  4. 16/03/2017 / 21:22

    I completely agree! When it comes from someone you respect then their feedback is even more valuable. Thanks for commenting!

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