Love Both Compliments and Criticism
A strong person accepts both compliments and criticism. Graciously knowing that it takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.
When I was a teenager I found it very difficult to accept any level of constructive criticism. At the time all I could hear was words of critique. Now that I’m a little older and a little wiser I can notice that I’m truly growing as a person. I now understand and accept constructive criticism and use it to develop and improve myself.
We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve – Bill Gates
The things which you least want to hear will help you grow the most. Now and again I fall back into old habits and take a persons feedback to heart. When this happens it takes me a while to see that their intentions meant no harm but to simply help me grow. Yet once I have twisted their words it takes me a little while to realise their true intentions.
The problem is, once I have taken something personally I find myself in a negative mindset. One of the things which I end up doing which makes me feel ten times worse, is analysing the feedback received. I will start to judge myself with further criticism. Interpreting a persons comment to mean something else, something negative.
To love yourself you also have to accept constructive criticism. Part of loving yourself means allowing yourself to grow and mature, to learn and understand, to help others and allow others to help you.
As painful as it can sometimes be to hear constructive criticism, it’s the type of feedback which we need the most in order to grow and develop. It may not be an agreeable conversation but it’s a necessary one. In the moment we don’t always remember the benefits of constructive criticism, as we can be too busy obsessing over it. Yet if we graciously listen and acknowledge what’s being said, we are giving ourselves the opportunity to improve our skills and relationships.
At the end of the day, it is up to you how you respond to constructive criticism. You can choose to grow from it or you can choose to dwell on it. Now and again (if you’re like me) you might just need a little time to
dwell over think about your feedback before you can learn from it. This is okay and it’s perfectly normal but note that it’s something which needs to be worked on. Ironically, I guess that’s a little piece of constructive criticism from me… to me.