Over the last couple of years, since I’ve been blogging and working on my self development, I’ve seen myself sabotage my goals and stand in the way of my success. Sometimes the self-sabotage is obvious but sometimes it takes a while to pull myself up on it. I actually find it really interesting as I think many of us will undermine our own success and unknowingly stop ourselves from achieving our goals.
Before we get into the reason why you might not be achieving your goals, have a think about a specific goal which you want to achieve but you’re currently struggling with. Then keep that goal in mind throughout this post, so that you can relate all of these reasons back to that specific goal. Maybe that goal is related to your health or your business, maybe it’s to create a habit or to develop a skill.
With these 8 reasons why you’re not achieving your goals, there are also ways we can fix these self-sabotaging habits and stop standing in the way of our own success.
Your goals are too vague
The first reason why you might not be achieving your goals is because your goals are too vague. Think about what it is that you want to achieve, have you actually set a goal to achieve it or are you goals super vague? For example “I want to grow my business” might seem like a goal in your mind, but it’s actually very vague. Have you set a date when you want to achieve it by? Have you created a plan of how you will grow your business? How will you know once you’ve grown your business, have you done the maths? The same can be said with the goal “I want to get out of debt”, have you sat down and worked out how much you would need to pay off each month? Have you set a date when you want the debt paid off by? Have you created a plan of how you can save money or earn more money to help pay off your debt?
I used to get disheartened and discouraged by my goals especially those goals towards my blog. Until I released that the reason why I was discouraged was because I kept moving my goal to something more challenging. I had set such a vague goal of “wanting to grow my blog” and “wanting to earn a part time income from blogging” that as I was growing I was unknowingly moving my goal to something more challenging, therefore every step I took towards my “vague goal” never felt like an achievement, because I couldn’t see how far along I had come. Sound familiar?
You’re not taking action towards your goals
The second reason why you might not be achieving your goals is because you’re not taking action towards your goal. You may have set yourself a SMART goal but if you’re not taking any action to achieve it then you’re going to get very far. It might seem like you’re working towards your goal because you’re using a lot of mental energy thinking about it, step back and ask yourself, what action have I taken to achieve this goal? A good way to pull yourself up on this is to think about what goals you keep sharing with other people, but you haven’t yet achieved. For example, the other day I caught myself telling a friend an idea to create an online course, I then released that I had told another person about this idea at the start of 2018!
You don’t actually want to achieve your goals
Do you actually want to achieve your goal? Does your goal inspire you and motivate you? Or have you only set this goal because you think it’s the “right” thing to do or because it will make your parents or your family happy?
Have you created a goal based on what the world says will make you happy or what is the “norm” but not necessarily because you want to achieve it? A good example is going to university, I know myself that the only reason I applied for university after school was because all of my friends were applying and because the teachers at school were encouraging it, so it seemed like the “normal” thing to do. I decided last minute that it’s not what I want and I went into the world of work instead. Have a think about your goal and ask yourself, do I actually want to achieve this or am I only doing it to make someone else happy?
You don’t know how to achieve your goals
The fourth reason why you might not be achieving your goals is because you’re telling yourself that you don’t know how to achieve your goal. Let’s be realistic here, even if you can’t see the exact step-by-step method on how to achieve your goal, you know what the first step or two is. You would Google it of course! There will be thousands of blogs online telling you how they achieved their (similar) goal, or you could purchase a book on the subject. You might not know how to go from where you are now to the end result, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make the first move.
If a friend came to you for advice on how to achieve this goal, what would you tell them? What advice would you give? If you didn’t know the answer what would you tell them to do? Would you tell them to look online? Buy a book? Invest in a course?
Stop using the “I don’t know how to achieve my goal” as an excuse, because you’re blocking yourself from success.
You haven’t set a deadline
The fifth reason why you might not be achieving your goals is because you haven’t set a deadline. Without a deadline it’s easy to use excuses such as I’ll do it tomorrow and I’ll do it later or I don’t now enough information to do that now. Have a think about your goal and work out how long it would take you to achieve this goal, then set yourself a deadline. For example, when I launched my 2019 Year planner, I set myself a deadline to have it available on my shop by October, however when I launched the 2018 Year Planner, I didn’t set a deadline and ended up launching the product by Mid December, which was much later that I would of liked.
You don’t believe you will achieve your goals
The sixth reason why you might not be achieving your goals is because you don’t believe in yourself. The thing is, if you don’t believe that you’ll achieve your goal then you’re not going to make the necessary steps to achieve it. I’m not saying that you need so set goals which aren’t challenging, in fact I encourage you to set goals which the past you would of believed to be impossible. My goal is to turn my blog into a full time job, this goal is so far from my reality and I don’t know all the steps to reach the end, but I believe it will happen. And therefore I take every step I know to slowly make my way there. Some days I believe more than other days, but the belief is always there. So my point here is, don’t bring your goals down to reach your beliefs, instead bring your beliefs up to match your goals!
You’re not following through with your plans
This reason is slightly different to #2 of “you’re not taking action towards your goals”. Not following through with your plans means you’ve created a plan and you’ve set a deadline but you’re not following through with what you’ve set out to do. This habit can negatively effect your self-esteem, because it can be really discouraging when you can’t really on yourself to do what you’ve planned to do. Think about why you might not be following through with your plans. Is it from fear of failure? Shame? Procrastination?
You have a habit of NOT achieving your goals
The final reason is,you have a habit of not achieving your goals. It can be hard to break bad habits, especially when they are ones which we’ve had for a long time. Long term habits not only become part of our lifestyle but they become part of who we are. For example we say that we are or aren’t a morning person, we convince ourselves that we’re always late or on time. Because this is how we’ve acted in the past, this is how we continue to act. Yet, there is no reason why you cant change your habits right now!
Have you told yourself that you’re not the type of person to achieve your goals? Are you focusing on your past experiences which back up this theory? If this sounds about right, I want you to think about reasons which prove that you ARE the type of person to achieve their goals. Even if you can only fine one or two reasons, that is enough. Now use these experiences to create a new habit and a new belief that you ARE the type of person to achieve their goals.
I hope you’ve found this post incredibly helpful and can use this as a starting to point to figure out why you’re not achieving your goals and take the necessary steps to stop standing in your own way of success!
You’ve got this!